It is a stereotype that violence persists only in rural areas, in socially vulnerable families with low incomes. Abusers can also be found in wealthy families, in high-ranking positions, and among intellectuals. The difference is that these families are more reluctant to report abuse, unlike those in rural areas, where reports are more frequent, said Viorica Timbalari, director of the National Agency for the Prevention and Combating of Violence against Women and Domestic Violence, in an interview with IPN.
Experience shows that women do leave abusive families, but they often lack financial security to take this step. Another reason preventing them from leaving an abusive relationship is the blackmail from their partners, who threaten to take their children away.
“Our country should address this issue, and in our prevention program, we have included this component - women’s economic empowerment - so they can make their own decisions and not be financially dependent on their abuser,” said Viorica Timbalari.
A woman experiencing violence is highly vulnerable, and every word and interaction matters. “If she is not ready to report to the police, we, as bystanders - whether we are neighbors or simply hear something while walking down the street - should approach that woman and at least provide her with information on where she can seek help,” urged the director of the National Agency for the Prevention and Combating of Violence against Women and Domestic Violence.
At the helpline 0 8008 8008, women can anonymously obtain information on what to do if they are victims of violence.
Signs of an abusive relationship include constant control, such as when a woman is pressured to quit her job.
“When a man tells you that you don’t need to work and offers to support you financially, this is actually weakening the woman’s financial independence - it is not an act of care to prevent her from getting tired at work,” explained Viorica Timbalari.
A woman who is a victim of violence and decides to break the silence should report the case by calling 112. The police will come to her home, conduct a risk assessment questionnaire, and if necessary, they have the authority to remove the abuser from the residence - even if it is his own property.
Viorica Timbalari also mentioned that the victim is protected for ten days, after which she can request a free protection order from the court for up to three months, allowing her to stay in the same home with her children. The abuser will be electronically monitored and prohibited from approaching the victim. Additionally, women can seek medical and social assistance services for further support.
