The parents must inform themselves about how they should discuss sexual issues with their children so that these realize when they are touched in an obscene way or somebody tries to abuse them and report such situations, psychologist Ana Niculaes stated for IPN when she was asked to make recommendations for parents following the arrest of a teacher from Ungheni on child sexual abuse charges.
Ana Niculaes said it is hard to identity the cases of sexual abuse because the child fears he will be punished and often does not say what happens to him. “The parents must explain to the children that any touch that makes them feel uncomfortable must not be tolerated and must be reported to an adult,” she stated.
The psychologist considers that the schools must teach a special class where the children will be told about sexuality, obscene touches and abuse and how to report such cases. She reminded about the book “Sex explained to the kids” that explains to children what sexuality is and it’s a pity that the priests did everything possible for this book to be disapproved of. “As long as sexuality is a taboo, the pedophiles have an advantage. The children do not understand what happens to them and are thus traumatized for life,” said Ana Niculaes.
She recommends the parents to acquire this book and to read it together with their children. If they are not ready for this, they can go to seminars dedicated to parents, where to learn how to discuss sexual issues with their children. Another recommendation is for the parents to ensure the children’s access to the application “Challenges faced by Dragos” that was launched by the Child Rights Information and Documentation Center with the aim of encouraging the children to know the forms of violence and not to tolerate the abuse.
Recently, a teacher aged 44 from Ungheni was remanded in custody for 30 days on suspicion of sexual harassment of children. Through surveillance cameras installed in his classroom, the police found out that the teacher took perverse actions towards at least two boys aged eight during classes.
